For anyone interested in the university situation:
I emailed the administrator, having phoned to find out her name and being told she was away until today.
'I have no paperwork' I said. 'I've been told I have a place...' I said. 'But dates, fees, who my tutor is, residential requirements, thoughts on research proposal... actual written confirmation... zilch' or words to that effect.
Reminder: I was offered a place to start last Autumn by email, as someone dropped out. But was deferring, due to a student who threatened to leave if.... remember? (Only of course, I said nothing about that... and now I'm beginning to wonder if that was a mistake...)
I heard back from the administrator this pm.
I no longer have a place, for sure.
Current situation: they are letting me know by the end of the week whether I do.
But even then... if the answer is yes, all it does is repeat what happened last August. I had that reply back then!!!
If the answer is no... someone is having a real laugh, aren't they? When I applied I was 54. I will be 56 before I hear a reply. Nearer my God to Thee and all that.
I have to say, I am on the verge of giving up. I'm being advised to give up! I'm being advised to recontact the Uni who offered me the place I turned down... or to just forget the whole thing.
It's beginning to sound the least stressful option.